When Brain Falls in Love
Love is chemical! Researchers at the
UK’s Rutgers University claim that certain parts of the brain get
all worked up and are the cause of how we behave with our loved one.
In other words, neurons establish specific connections that cause
and maintain the state of love. That’s how we manage to become
attached to someone. The magic doesn’t work the same way for men
and women. While men see their sexual desire aroused, women’s
attractions are mainly based on feelings.
The study consisted of watching what exactly happened in the brain
of someone who just started a relationship. The scientists used the
MRI (magnetic resonance imagery) technique to examine the brain
activities of a group of volunteers. Each time, they were first
shown a photo of someone they knew then a photo of their loved one.
When they saw this second photo it was the right side of the brain
that suddenly started to produce dopamine, creating a surplus of
energy that then turns into loving desire. For the different sexes
this leads to two completely different attitudes!
The female brain activates itself in particular to develop an
emotion based on feelings that’s translated into a surplus of
attention towards their man. However, the man doesn’t weigh
himself down with abstract thoughts and sets in motion the process
of his sexual desire, which he sees in very concrete terms. The
scientists’ conclusion: romance responds to a very specific
mechanism in the brain, and it’s the difference between the two
sexes that allows them to complement each other and feel good
together. Men need sex, women want feelings, and together they
succeed in offering each other what they want.
The neurons’ brain circuits are thus perfectly prepared to
envisage a long-term relationship as long as the two partners
complement each other and are in fact really in love. When a man
wants sex and nothing else, he’s still never totally safe from
being heart-broken if he finds the woman who represents exactly what
he’s looking for. So the old adage that a man keeps his brains
between his legs isn’t false, just as it’s true that a woman
keeps her sex in her head…
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